What “Gay Pride” Means To Me
It means so much in so many ways. I will start by saying that it means so many - too many - who have been murdered because they are gay have not died in vain! People got behind the movement all over the country when deaths occurred because of hatred.
In Bangor Maine a man named Charlie O. Howard was murdered on July 7, 1984. He was an 'out' gay man walking at night in Bangor. He was chased by three teenage boys, who caught up with him on a bridge and threw him into the Kenduskeag Stream - he screamed that he could not swim and was ignored. He drowned. It galvanized the community in Maine and probably elsewhere. Charlie was just one.
Every time one of these outrages occurred the community where it happened was forced to face its homophobia. Every time one of us was murdered we, as a community, became more resolved to push through the wall of hatred a little further. People 'came out' either as Gay/Lesbian, or 'out'-raged at their straight community for not having better programs for raising awareness. Ignorance was faced head on and we started to make the straight community FACE us for who we are, not for who they imagined - in their worst ignorance-laced imaginations - us to be. Gay Pride marches became much more frequent - we dressed as we were not as the straight community might find acceptable.
It has taken a looooonnnnnggggg time but it is amazing to see that there are more and more areas of this country that now have learned that the ignorance is the sickness inflicted on the people just trying to have the right to be who they are. This should make us all proud - Gay and Straight. 'Gay Pride' means all people can be proud that their community welcomes and cares for all of its people - that no one group of people are feared/hated as outsiders.
It means so much in so many ways. I will start by saying that it means so many - too many - who have been murdered because they are gay have not died in vain! People got behind the movement all over the country when deaths occurred because of hatred.
In Bangor Maine a man named Charlie O. Howard was murdered on July 7, 1984. He was an 'out' gay man walking at night in Bangor. He was chased by three teenage boys, who caught up with him on a bridge and threw him into the Kenduskeag Stream - he screamed that he could not swim and was ignored. He drowned. It galvanized the community in Maine and probably elsewhere. Charlie was just one.
Every time one of these outrages occurred the community where it happened was forced to face its homophobia. Every time one of us was murdered we, as a community, became more resolved to push through the wall of hatred a little further. People 'came out' either as Gay/Lesbian, or 'out'-raged at their straight community for not having better programs for raising awareness. Ignorance was faced head on and we started to make the straight community FACE us for who we are, not for who they imagined - in their worst ignorance-laced imaginations - us to be. Gay Pride marches became much more frequent - we dressed as we were not as the straight community might find acceptable.
It has taken a looooonnnnnggggg time but it is amazing to see that there are more and more areas of this country that now have learned that the ignorance is the sickness inflicted on the people just trying to have the right to be who they are. This should make us all proud - Gay and Straight. 'Gay Pride' means all people can be proud that their community welcomes and cares for all of its people - that no one group of people are feared/hated as outsiders.