Not Allowed to Vape in the House

[SweetSpot]

So, since Jan 1, I've been attempting to quit, had a couple fall backs, but at the moment my biggest issue is I'm no longer allowed to vape inside. My mom made jokes about my vaping(or so I thought they were), saying it was basically smoking and she didn't want me to do it in the car, etc. (Don't remember everything). Well, the other night my dad decided to talk to me, telling me how I was blatantly ignoring her requests that I didn't vape inside pointedly asked me not to. Now, unless home alone or up alone at night, I don't, but for me it's easier to quickly step outside than to go outside and do something which has become a mindless habit/fidget and doesn't have a definite end.

My sister has said it doesn't stink up the house and I know it doesn't, but I'm not sure if they really understand the better value of vaping opposed to smoking. They're older and basically had to simply struggle through quitting without any devices when they stopped smoking. How can I convince them that vaping inside is not a bad thing?

 

[Jimmyhat]

Not trying to be rude but unless you bought the house you kind of have to play by their rules. As far as anyone knows it has not been proven to cause any issues as far as second hand vapor goes but it hasnt been a long enough time to know for sure. I would say get a liquid with a scent your parents like but the vapor itself is probably the issue and thats understandable if they dont want you to do it in the house. if it really bothers you move out.

 

[tBERGz]

I'm kind of in your position. My parents didn't realise that the vape produced was seriously vapor, because it looked like smoke to them. I have educated them, with information from this forum, about the differences between smoking and vaping, and how vaping was a lot healthier for me. I brought up the fact that when I smoked analogs, the hated the smell on my clothes and skin and asked them to completely consider me vaping in the house, since the scent was less and far away from as pungent as the odor from my analogs after coming inside. They now don't care aslong as I do it in my room, away from them.

Is it the smell of the vape that they are against? Or the whole idea of vaping in the house in general?

 

[bdeef]

My parents said the same thing in the beginning... I tried to explain to them what I was doing & why I was doing it. I showed them all of he research that I did & the benefit vaping has over smoking. They now understand & let me vape in the house (after all it's not like it smells or is a disturbance to anyone, no one is getting harmed).

Maybe you can pull up a few articals or show them your research, make them understand how much better vaping is for you.

Hope that helps!

 

[mainevaper]

Did you have to go outside to smoke cigs? I did, so if I was asked to go outside to vape, I don't think it would be an issue. As it is, I still have the urge to get up, and go outside for a smoke, sometimes I go out there to vape, just cuz it was part of the habit.
Either way... Seems to me like its not your house, and if your parents want you to go outside to do it..... Well....

 

[xanderxman]

I don't think you will. I am a fully grown, responsible 37 year old man and my father still gives me crap about my vaping. I work for him in the family business and have been told I can only vape in the shop. I respect his wishes, he is the boss after all, and only vape where he allows. He is a hardcore anti-smoker. He has terrible asthma and can't be near smoke. He tried to get me to quit smoking for years and I finally did with vaping. Now all he says is I need to quit that as well.

I have come to realize that, for some people, vaping will always be equated to smoking and nothing you can say or do will change their mind. Until you get your own place where you make the rules you are going to have to suck it up and vape only where you are allowed. It is going to be an uphill battle for you (that you are probably going to lose anyway) and I don't think damaging family bonds is a price you are willing to pay for that battle.

 

[bdeef]

Jim that's funny, I'm from West Chester too!

 

[GalenCopes]

While I would never smoke in my house, I vape constantly in my house. I personally see any reason not to...but it is my house. If someone doesn't like what I do in my house, they are free to leave. You, on the other hand, seem to be living with your parents in their house. That means you are also free to abide by the rules they set forth or you are free to leave. To not abide by the wishes of the ones supplying the roof over your head would be disrespectful. If you own the house and are taking care of them, then they should respect your right to do as you please under your own roof.

Galen

 

[SweetSpot]

I haven't had a chance to seriously talk to them yet as when my dad talked to me, my mom was asleep so there was no way to have a legit family discussion. Everyone I talk to who vapes and even a few who don't, agree it's not as bad and there's really no smell and it doesn't linger if there is a hint of it. And I'm aware it's their house, but my question was what's a best way to convince them as it's been one time I've actually been told not to. and if I could I would move out, but at this moment I can't. All I know is I go to a store and I vape, I'm at work, I vape, I'm with my bf(who's against smoking), I vape, I'm at home where family's suppose to be the biggest support, and I get told, no. There's yet to be a real discussion. Which is why I'm here, asking what would be a good way to approach this?(I don't accept no right off-something my dad taught me, so I look for ways besides articles as my dad from the moment he said something, sent me an article saying ecigs were bad for your health)

 

[SweetSpot]

Why are you still living with your parents?

Because I had to move back in with them after some major issues that were going on and when I have the money, I shall be moving out once again.

 

[bdeef]

I do agree with the others about their house, their rules. Maybe bring up the topic one more time with your research. If they say no, they say no. You will have to abide by the house rules.

 

[Moses195]

When I leave the room and come back, I smell honey, caramel, etc. I smoked for 25 years and vaping DOES NOT smell like analogs at all. It must me a stigma that has followed smokers into this new arena?


Dana

 

[SweetSpot]

I'm kind of in your position. My parents didn't realise that the vape produced was seriously vapor, because it looked like smoke to them. I have educated them, with information from this forum, about the differences between smoking and vaping, and how vaping was a lot healthier for me. I brought up the fact that when I smoked analogs, the hated the smell on my clothes and skin and asked them to completely consider me vaping in the house, since the scent was less and far away from as pungent as the odor from my analogs after coming inside. They now don't care aslong as I do it in my room, away from them.

Is it the smell of the vape that they are against? Or the whole idea of vaping in the house in general?

My dad's not against it, just trying to support my mom and I think she sees the vapor and immediately thinks smoke.

 

[bdeef]

Agree with your dad, it's probably not the healthiest thing to put in your body, BUT (& that's a big but) it is a million times better than smoking & they should support your decision to help yourself.

 

[xanderxman]

You can present them with all of the research you can find here and at other online sources. Try to show them that vaping is healthier than smoking. But, from my own experience, I don't think you are going to change their minds. I have spouted every detail I can glean from various sources to my father and he still thinks it is bad. It is extremely hard to change someone's opinion.

Think about it from the other side. Your parents are trying to tell you that vaping is not good for you. How receptive to their opinion have you been? It takes time and education to change an opinion and that is not usually accomplished overnight. As I said before, you are facing an uphilll battle and only you can decide if the possible damage from that battle is worth it.

 

[Starik]

Don't listen to all these old codgers/bikers/libertarians. You shouldn't be shamed for living in your parents' house. Vaping doesn't stink up the house or give those around you second hand smoke. You're right and your parents are wrong, and they should be swayed by the logic. That being said, be diplomatic about it. Explain to them exactly what is in the juice and how it's so much better for you than cigarettes. The subtle threat of you going back to analogs might help.

 

[mainevaper]

You can present them with all of the research you can find here and at other online sources. Try to show them that vaping is healthier than smoking. But, from my own experience, I don't think you are going to change their minds. I have spouted every detail I can glean from various sources to my father and he still thinks it is bad. It is extremely hard to change someone's opinion.

Think about it from the other side. Your parents are trying to tell you that vaping is not good for you. How receptive to their opinion have you been? It takes time and education to change an opinion and that is not usually accomplished overnight. As I said before, you are facing an uphilll battle and only you can decide if the possible damage from that battle is worth it.

Well said. You can't convince them its healthy for you. Doubt you could convince them its perfectly safe. The only thing you could possibly convince them, is that its safer than smoking. And that may still leave them not wanting you to do it in their house.
Try to convince them that its safer, but don't be surprised if they still prefer you to go outside.

 

[SweetSpot]

I'm 23 and been smoking a little over a year-only quitting because of my boyfriend, otherwise I probably wouldn't care. And my parents have done(to my knowledge only a bit of research as before my dad said something to me, it was never a big issue, they were happy I'd found something a little better). Like I said, until the other night, I was never told anything pointedly bad about vaping.

 

[Herennow]

Your still burning something & they see it. They own the house.
My house, my rules as the old saying goes.

 

[DanKnowsJack]

Everything that xanderxman said, Live by their rules... Show them how much research you have done, but at the end of the day just respect their rules.
By the way I'm from South Eastern PA as well, Ephrata to be exact... Nice to know there are so many around... Any Vaping groups in the area that meet up?