I was a partial closet smoker as well. Most of my mom's side of my family all smoked and knew I smoked, but my dad's side of the family didn't smoke and "didn't know" that I did. I think most all of them knew I smoked, since the smell is just so pungent. but it was more of a don't ask don't tell policy. I once almost had my Dad and his Wife stay the night, his wife is very allergic to smoke and couldn't stand to be in my house, I cleaned for days and left all the windows open for just as long before they came but I guess it wasn't enough they ended up staying in a hotel, I played it off like the neighbors all smoke, which they do, but I doubt it really fooled anyone. I'll be interested to see if something similar would happen again now that I have made the switch to vaping. I certainly know it's not nearly as pungent of a smell but one of my friends still thinks it smells like smoke...
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I never smoked anyplace but car and outside of house but EVERYONE knew I was a smoker cuz I stunk my car stunk I wasn't foolin anyone.I vape in the house now and in the car but not if smoke sensitive people are in the car cuz they complain its still smoke .
Had the neighbors kids ask my husband what he was doing while he vaped...he didn't have a real solid response... I have always thought about what I would say to a child when asked about vaping.....
My husband and I always smoked outside and we have never hid it from our daughter, but when we switched to vaping, I was honest with her and explained what I was doing. It was amazing to have my 10 y/o child give me a hug and say, "good for you mom, cause cigarettes can kill you".
I suppose I fit the bill as a closet smoker although in my later years I quit trying to cover the smell up with Axe spray, got to be where in the winter time my jacket simply wreaked! I did this for about 7 years although my Dad and brother knew, I guess my Mom just associated the smell with me being at the bowling alley. I finally came clean last summer to my Mom and told her I had been smoking for 6.5 years at the time and needless to say she wasn't happy but understood my wanting to quit and the addiction it had. I felt like I really let her down because my Grandmother (her Mom) died from lung cancer and my Uncle (her brother) smokes a lot too, maybe 2 packs a day. At work there were only a certain number of people that knew I smoked, I didn't like to smoke outside at the front of the store (work at a grocery store) simply because of the awful looks these yuppies give you walking by with their kids, so I would just go to my car on breaks and lunch and smoke as many as I could then go back in. My parents are "happy" with my switch to the e-cig but they still are giving me the "When are you going to quit?" which I tell them that I am simply working on it.
I kept it in the closet for about two weeks. My wife would comment on how good I smelled, haha. I kind of wanted to see how long I could keep it under wraps, but I finally did come out on April Fools Day, lol. I expected her to be immediately dismissive, but she really was indifferent to it.
I smoked openly for years in front of everyone. Then I quit and stayed quit for a couple of years and my family, friends, acquaintances, etc. were all thrilled. So when I slipped and started having the occasional one that became more than just an occasional one, I didn't want to tell anyone. I only smoked outdoors or in my home office, which is a whole separate building from my house and no one goes in except me. I kept a couple of shirts in my office and when I entered, I would slip off the shirt I was wearing and stick it in a ziplock bag, then put on one of my "smoking" shirts. When I finished smoking, I would use mouthwash, spray my hair with perfume made specifically to remove odors from hair, and slip my non-stinky shirt back on. I wore vanilla perfume and people, including strangers, often told me I smelled like cookies baking. No one, including family and friends, ever said they smelled smoke.
I wasn't sure I was fooling anyone, but after I had been vaping for about a year, I decided to tell my husband. My youngest child had left for college and I thought it would be nice to be able to vape on roadtrips with my husband or even while sitting watching a movie in the evening. He was totally supportive. Once I came clean about vaping, I asked him if he had known that I was smoking again and he said he hadn't had a clue. I asked him if any of my grown daughters had mentioned that they smelled smoke on me or thought I was smoking again (they would totally say something to him or me if they had suspicions) and he said not even once.
I still don't vape in front of anyone I know except him. I have my own reasons for this. I don't think my daughters would be upset that I'm vaping, although they would have been very upset about me smoking again. I keep it to myself because I have very few things in life that are just mine. I have four daughters who help themselves to my clothes, shoes, jewelry, books, etc. because that's just the kind of relationship we have. Because I've had medical problems that have resulted in four major surgeries in the last six years, my daughters have been in the room while doctors and nurses discussed my weight, my bathroom habits, my diet, and every other last detail of my life. Vaping is just for me. I don't want to discuss it with them, I don't want to justify it, I don't want to share it. They have many parts of their adult lives that I'm not privy to and this is the one thing that I keep just for myself. Maybe I'll change my mind someday and decide that hiding it from them isn't worth the effort anymore, but for now, I like having something that just my husband and I share knowledge of away from the kiddies. Besides, it's so much easier hiding vaping then smoking. Since I already smell like cookies baking, no one thinks anything of the smell of my vape. My daughters have walked in the room right after I've vaped and said how good it smells. They think it's the candles I have sitting around unlit.
I shared this story once before and had a lot of pro-vaping members respond that I needed to vape openly in order to help make vaping more mainstream. I had others say that I was kidding myself if I thought I was hiding my smoking from anyone. And some made negative comments about my role as a mother if I felt the need to hide things from my daughters. I don't judge others for how they vape, where they vape, or why they vape. I don't know your life and you don't know mine. This is what works for me. I do vape when I'm out in public by myself or with my husband. I have a great relationship with my daughters and speak with each of them several times a week. I don't demand to know every detail of their lives and don't feel a need to share every detail of mine with them. That doesn't make me a bad mother, just an adult who has a life separate from her role as a mother.
For me, hiding smoking was because I knew there would be a negative backlash. I'm not worried about that with vaping. I just choose not to share my new hobby.
To the OP, thanks for starting this thread. It's an interesting one.
I wasn't sure I was fooling anyone, but after I had been vaping for about a year, I decided to tell my husband. My youngest child had left for college and I thought it would be nice to be able to vape on roadtrips with my husband or even while sitting watching a movie in the evening. He was totally supportive. Once I came clean about vaping, I asked him if he had known that I was smoking again and he said he hadn't had a clue. I asked him if any of my grown daughters had mentioned that they smelled smoke on me or thought I was smoking again (they would totally say something to him or me if they had suspicions) and he said not even once.
I still don't vape in front of anyone I know except him. I have my own reasons for this. I don't think my daughters would be upset that I'm vaping, although they would have been very upset about me smoking again. I keep it to myself because I have very few things in life that are just mine. I have four daughters who help themselves to my clothes, shoes, jewelry, books, etc. because that's just the kind of relationship we have. Because I've had medical problems that have resulted in four major surgeries in the last six years, my daughters have been in the room while doctors and nurses discussed my weight, my bathroom habits, my diet, and every other last detail of my life. Vaping is just for me. I don't want to discuss it with them, I don't want to justify it, I don't want to share it. They have many parts of their adult lives that I'm not privy to and this is the one thing that I keep just for myself. Maybe I'll change my mind someday and decide that hiding it from them isn't worth the effort anymore, but for now, I like having something that just my husband and I share knowledge of away from the kiddies. Besides, it's so much easier hiding vaping then smoking. Since I already smell like cookies baking, no one thinks anything of the smell of my vape. My daughters have walked in the room right after I've vaped and said how good it smells. They think it's the candles I have sitting around unlit.
I shared this story once before and had a lot of pro-vaping members respond that I needed to vape openly in order to help make vaping more mainstream. I had others say that I was kidding myself if I thought I was hiding my smoking from anyone. And some made negative comments about my role as a mother if I felt the need to hide things from my daughters. I don't judge others for how they vape, where they vape, or why they vape. I don't know your life and you don't know mine. This is what works for me. I do vape when I'm out in public by myself or with my husband. I have a great relationship with my daughters and speak with each of them several times a week. I don't demand to know every detail of their lives and don't feel a need to share every detail of mine with them. That doesn't make me a bad mother, just an adult who has a life separate from her role as a mother.
For me, hiding smoking was because I knew there would be a negative backlash. I'm not worried about that with vaping. I just choose not to share my new hobby.
To the OP, thanks for starting this thread. It's an interesting one.
To the OP I think you are a prime candidate to cut nic and vaping as fast as you can! If my wife was that dis honest with me for that many years I would have some serious trust issues with her if I found out. SO I would say unless you come clean and accept the consequences.
Your best bet is to get off of vaping ASAP and spend that same amount of years doing a selfless anonymous act twards your wife each and every day till your even. Carma's a
and your begging for the bad kind to come a knocking!
Your best bet is to get off of vaping ASAP and spend that same amount of years doing a selfless anonymous act twards your wife each and every day till your even. Carma's a
and your begging for the bad kind to come a knocking!
I have no answer for you, but I'm in the same boat over here I think. I smoked for years, and my partner knew about that. I quit smoking a while ago (a few weeks), then caved and bought a PV. I've been vaping for a while now, and my partner has no idea. I'm sure he would be supportive, but he is a non-smoker and I'm not sure he would totally understand the harm reduction aspect of ecigs.
I really appreciate you starting this thread, and everyone who has taken the time to share their experiences. It's given me a lot to think about.
Total closet smoker here, except around close friends, even my wife at that time didn't know.... But hell my car stunk so bad and I'm sure I wasn't fooling anyone.
That all came to a big crash, when a close friend died from smoking related issues, and a week later I went to my docs for a refill on my asthma meds (I know huh...) and she asked me if I was smoking....
After 11 years may 5th 2012 was my last cig. My friends and now well X... know I vape, hell, even she takes a vape once and awhile ( we are SO much better x's than married, strange how that happens), but my family knows but it's more of a silent knowing, without issues about it.
That all came to a big crash, when a close friend died from smoking related issues, and a week later I went to my docs for a refill on my asthma meds (I know huh...) and she asked me if I was smoking....
After 11 years may 5th 2012 was my last cig. My friends and now well X... know I vape, hell, even she takes a vape once and awhile ( we are SO much better x's than married, strange how that happens), but my family knows but it's more of a silent knowing, without issues about it.
after 2 months vaping I can smell smokers now. Cant believe I smelled like that for 25 years. yuck
Wow.....here I thought that I was the only one.
I smoked for over 20 years, my wife knew that I smoked but was in a state of denial. I did not smoke around her, and when I had kids, it became rougher to hide it, especially as they got older. I had the mints, hand sanitizer, etc, but come on, now that I dont smoke, it is sooooo obvious.
I did not hide the fact that I vape, but I didn't "blow it in their faces", if you know what I mean. My wife saw my ego on the charger a few weeks into vaping, and her only comment (besides the whole "is this REALLY quitting"), was that I smell great now! I bought a new car, no smell, besides the new car smell, and I vape en route to and from work, when walking the dog, and stealthily at home. I am healthier, happier, and I dont feel like I am lying or hiding anything all the time anymore, which is great for my stress level !!!
All Around Win !!!!
I smoked for over 20 years, my wife knew that I smoked but was in a state of denial. I did not smoke around her, and when I had kids, it became rougher to hide it, especially as they got older. I had the mints, hand sanitizer, etc, but come on, now that I dont smoke, it is sooooo obvious.
I did not hide the fact that I vape, but I didn't "blow it in their faces", if you know what I mean. My wife saw my ego on the charger a few weeks into vaping, and her only comment (besides the whole "is this REALLY quitting"), was that I smell great now! I bought a new car, no smell, besides the new car smell, and I vape en route to and from work, when walking the dog, and stealthily at home. I am healthier, happier, and I dont feel like I am lying or hiding anything all the time anymore, which is great for my stress level !!!
All Around Win !!!!
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