When you say you pulse it on a mech and everything is fine, is this before or after you've inserted the mesh wick?
It really sounds to me like you're getting a short between the coil->mesh->deck. Like I mentioned earlier, the only time I've ever had a coil pop in any of my gennies it's been due to a short of some sort. I typically use 28 or 30 gauge wire with coils that are ~1ohm on mechs and rarely run in to issues with popping a coil.
If you're getting a hot leg between the wick and the positive post, it has nothing to do with wicking so changing the mesh type likely won't help fix the problem. FWIW, I've always used 400 or 500 mesh and have rarely had issues with it not supplying liquid fast enough.