Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Today is a bad, bad, bad day. This is the day my maternal grandfather died; two weeks after my father died unexpectedly on my parent's wedding anniversary. We were all reeling from the loss of my father when the phone rang late at night. I answered on the downstairs phone at the same time my mother answered the upstairs phone. I have never run so fast in my life, nor heard such awful wailings of grief.
MN was having one of the worst ice storms ever and my mom needed to get to her father. I couldn't even think, just react and flew out the door running down the street to bang on a neighbors door. I needed someone to watch my 2 month old, 2 year old and 10 year old.
My husband drove us to my mother's father and we found he had choked to death on a malted milk ball, in bed. The night was so bad that when the mortuary came to pick up the body they couldn't use the hearse. They packed my grandfather off into the night in the back of a 4 wheel drive pick-up.
My mother's sisters, so distraught over their loss, were non-functional and by the time everything was all said and done, with their bickering over who would do what, we ended up having to put my father's shoes on my grandfather.
Poor Grandma, we had the funeral on her birthday, Dec. 10th, and stress being what it is she had a heart attack, at my mom's house after the funeral. She didn't die that night but I think my mom just about lost her mind, with the repeat of a loved one in her kitchen with paramedics.
When we were able to make the 3 hour drive back to our home, to pick up Christmas presents and have my oldest participate in her Christmas Concert - we were robbed while at the Concert. Yee Haw...more fun. NOT. They ripped through all our presents, stole everything ... I felt soooo violated and at the same time so out of touch. When the police arrived I offered to make them coffee, in a zombiesk daze. They actually asked my husband what was wrong with me. He explained.
That night we lay on our first floor apartment carpet, watching out the sliding door as the SWAT team brought in dogs to track the theives. Ended up finding out we were robbed by two serial rapists! They robbed and raped 14 known times before us. We were the only ones who were not tied up and raped.
(All of this happened years ago but it comes up and goes round and round)
So I've smoked two cigarettes today, both while talking to my mom on the phone today. She is heading out to her girlfriend's who is dying from emphysema and her friend may not make it through today. I think I'll go smoke another cigarette.