So, moral dilemma.. Lie to my girlfriend or not?

[jcp42877]

A good friend of both my gf AND I had been vaping for almost 2 yrs now...it's helped him off a long road of smoking that he was involved with for almost 7 yrs. well, I recently quit smoking after "indulging" for 2 yrs doing the habit off and on.

Well, my buddy gave me one of his first Volt e cigs under discretion of my gf, so that I could try it out myself, etc.

Keep in mind, I was OFF cigs for a while, but watching him vape set off something in me I craved.

Well, my gf didn't know for a few days but finally found out after I told her...she wasn't happy in the slightest but seemed to brush it off. Later though, she admitted it kept bugging her and she didn't know why, but she would rather me give it back to our friend.

Well, I have one carto left til I'm out...yet I crave more, so I want to buy a better setup..BUT, I feel like crap sneaking behind my gf. So much so, that I had my entire setup in checkout last night at Smokeless Image with their 22% off code, but closed the window before I finalized the order, "just cause" :/

I feel like without vaping at least I'll return to cigs, but my gf still sees vaping as a form of "poison" entering me and doesn't know how long vaping as a habit would last

 

[Mroutlaw]

if you are going to end up back on analogs, you should vape. She needs to understand that vaping is better than smoking.

 

[rondasherrill]

Explain to her that while we don't know most of the 4000 ingredients(most of which are toxic or carcinogenic in some form), you can write the ingredients list for e-liquid on the back of a sugar packet, and they are all FDA approved ingredients. The only "bad" ingredient is the nicotine, which has been shown to be a simple vasoconstrictor on par with caffeine.

Propylene Glycol (MSDS)
Vegetable Glycerin (MSDS)
Nicotine
Flavor concentrates, same as used for food

Explain that you don't personally feel like you would be able to remain off cigarettes without some form of help, which these have a significantly higher success rate than any other nicotine replacement therapy out there, including the patch, gum, or inhaler.

 

[recidivus]

Well, a solid relationship is built on honesty. I'd tell her, and explain the reason why ("I feel I will start smoking again"). Then I'd work out a plan to reduce nicotine until you hit 0, if need be.

In the end it's your decision to make, and yours only. This could lead to some heated discussions, in fact it's probably inevitable. Fact of the matter is: you feel the addiction kicking in and would prefer the less harmful alternative. Be polite about it, vape outside if you have to, etc.

They're your lungs, not hers. She has to understand that.

 

[RickPBush]

IMHO you need to talk it through with your GF, lay your cards on the table and work it through. Honesty is the key to any relationship and that includes being honest about your thoughts and feelings.

 

[negrete35]

I would talk with her. you don't want to end up back on analogs and probably still sneaking around behind her back with them.

 

[synthros]

You can lie now, but that will make any (inevitable) confrontation later much much worse. Deal with your issues (vaping/addiction/relationship) up front and now, rather than later. It's not really a moral delimma, it's a choice. I'm guessing you're looking for encouragement to do, what you already know, is the right thing. Go do it! I'm guessing you are not going to see alot of posts reccommending that you lie to your significant other

 

[Jonner]

Tell her now, I was in the same situation with my wife, sneaking cigs, then sneaking vaping, got home late one night and forgot to take my twist and liquid out of my pocket, she found them in the morning when she did the laundry, not too happy but she doesn't know the extent of my vaping. Easier to just deal with it now.

 

[Liv2Ski]

Vape away man! She is your GF now and maybe someday your wife. If she is going to get bent out of shape on the vaping thing just imagine the road ahead. I say press the test and if she wants to be that controlling over vaping you will get some good insight on how she will be when a few years down the road you want to buy a new toy (motorcycle, boat, snowmobile etc.). In the end do what feels right but no matter what pick the option that keeps you off smokes. Good luck.

 

[dkim210]

Be honest. Rondasherrill hit the nail on the head with that explanation. I said the same thing to my wife who was reluctant to jump on board with me vaping. She now understands and fully supports the switch. If your girlfriend doesn't understand, help her understand why its so much better for you. If she doesn't want to understand or support you, perhaps its time to re-think why you're with someone who wouldn't be supportive of you kicking a deadly habit. Mind you, I'm not trying to be "that guy" telling you to break things off with her. I just believe that if your other half refuses to research with you, understand why, and support you, perhaps you're better off hitting that "Purchase Now" button and cutting things off with your girlfriend.

 

[Vince Clortho]

These are the times when we find out alot about one another: conflict. Someone you feel you have to hide things from may not be the right person for you. Relationships are often about longevity, so think in the long run. It's not a choice of girlfriend or vape; it's a choice between someone with controlling tendencies or not.

In the end it's more up to you. But Being honest and upfront will keep your conscience clear, always.

 

[Ralikar]

http://bloogplanet.com/

Better bats and way better cartos... for when you dump the gf in favor of vaping ;0

 

[magikmax]

Speaking as someone who spent 15 years as a closet smoker before switching to vaping so I could be even more 'closeted' I can tell you that it simply isn't worth the hassle. Honesty really is the best policy.

You have to be who you want to be, and there will always be a deep-seated resentment and something between you if you hide something like this.

 

[classwife]

In any relationship...what ever the subject, converstaion and honesty is always the best. It may not be the easiest - but it's still the best.

 

[Flykrisco]

Life is short. Just Lay it on the table and face the facts. Vaping is healthier than smoking. I never smoked but i picked up vaping. I just dont use nic in my ejuice. It took a little while for my smoker wife to get it.

 

[Algerhugz]

I would tell her now like many have mentioned here. And then I would bring her to this forum and let her gather information about vaping to prove that its much healthier then analogs. She if she truly loves you should be all in favor of you finding a way to leave such an unhealthy habit behind.

 

[zuzette]

well now....you have good advice here. in the long run what breaks you two up might be some other issue entirely. would you really feel better for having hid your habit if that day comes because she suddenly left you for someone else or decided to call it quits because she wants go sky dive naked and you don't? life is full of unforeseen loops. you can't make others happy. you can only choose to live happy just for yourself just because you want to.

 

[Varrius]

Tell her you want to be there for ya'lls kids, and grandkids. If she doesn't get it, find someone else who does.

My wife was hesitant about my vaping at first (she's an RN), but she talked to a few doctors and came back and told me to go for it. I was going to do it either way, but I made it seem like she had input, which I'm sure she appreciated, being a medical professional.

So tell her if she has to pick between you smoking, or you vaping, which would she pick? Explain to her how it isn't as harmful, and doesn't stink up the place (at least most juices don't). As everyone said, talk it out. If you hide it you will regret it eventually.

 

[Fesso]

Be honest and just starting smoking again, then after a couple of days of weezing when you run up stairs and start smelling like an ashtray then maybe she'll be on your side and support your vaping.

 

[DrexlerJarron]

I've been in your situation ever since i started smoking. I have went to the point of doing it behind her back but in the end confessing. It causes a lot of trouble. Lesson learned to always be honest and to have a serious talk with her. If you have been off any type of smoke/vapor for awhile i suggest keeping it that way. If the crave has come back i suggest to vape before its too late.