My non-smoking partner is now vaping...

[Craybee]

So my partner, who doesn't smoke, and maybe had a couple of cigarettes back in college during the stone age, is now vaping with me and i'm a little spooked by that. i've been vaping for four years now. unlike when i was a smoker i vape in the house, and usually when we're lounging on the sofa watching tv.

a couple of weeks ago he suddenly expressed interest and wanted to vape too. i tried to ignore his interest for a few days but he kept bugging me so i let him try my mod, which was way too strong for him, so i rummaged through my vaping paraphernalia and found my old cig-a-like kit that i hadn't used in about four years. the cartomizers were still in somewhat usable condition even though they had the remains of whatever flavor i was vaping at the time. i filled one with juice and there he was puffing away with me. after about a week of that i figured i should buy fresh cartomizers because this didn't seem to be a passing fancy.

so like i said his vaping is kinda rubbing me the wrong way. i told him so but he said i shouldn't worry because he doesn't have addictive "brain chemistry". still, i kinda feel guilty that my vaping next to him for the past four years might've gotten him second-handidly hooked on nicotine somehow. should i be worried? i feel kinda dirty, like i've corrupted him. :/

 

[Beamslider]

He's an adult right? His choice so don't let it bother you

 

[JCinFLA]

No doubt that he's seen how much you like vaping during the last 4 years, and he's starting to enjoy it, too. No big deal, IMO. Maybe he'd even enjoy it just as much with no nic in it, since he's not an ex-smoker. Might want to let him know about that as an option, too. In any event, like said above...he's an adult = his choice.

 

[Tvan]

I wouldn't worry much about it. Years back my wife was interested asking me questions about vaping. I took her to our local b&m and bought her an I taste with a mini pro tank (0 nic). She gave it up after a little while. I remember it being like 3 - 4 weeks.

 

[Ryedan]

so like i said his vaping is kinda rubbing me the wrong way. i told him so but he said i shouldn't worry because he doesn't have addictive "brain chemistry". still, i kinda feel guilty that my vaping next to him for the past four years might've gotten him second-handidly hooked on nicotine somehow. should i be worried? i feel kinda dirty, like i've corrupted him. :/

IMO, if you were not passing vapor to him mouth to mouth (and doing so regularly for a while), there could not be enough nic from proximity to your exhale to get him hooked on that.

He could also use no-nic juices now and avoid any possibility of getting hooked from vaping it.

Good luck with it

 

[Craybee]

No doubt that he's seen how much you like vaping during the last 4 years, and he's starting to enjoy it, too. No big deal, IMO. Maybe he'd even enjoy it just as much with no nic in it, since he's not an ex-smoker. Might want to let him know about that as an option, too. In any event, like said above...he's an adult = his choice.

i recently got some 0 nic juice (mainly for him) and he tried it tonight and really liked it. so i was pleased about that.

i think i feel guilty because his interest in vaping seemed to peak around the same time i switched from eGo twists to reg mods and sub ohm tanks about a month ago. so i basically went from years of very modest, wispy vape trails to spewing out thick, ginormous, white clouds of vape overnight and not thinking anything of it.

anyway, i realize he's an adult but i guess i just need some time to adjust to this new dynamic we have. in the meantime i don't think it'd hurt to be a bit more considerate now that i'm sub ohm-ing and vape a little less around him.

 

[Eskie]

I would just wait and see if it's a passing fancy. And you might as well stick with the 0 nic if your partner is going to continue to vape. Actually, I would do that right at the beginning.

 

[stols001]

If he likes 0 nic juice, I'd stay with that, just in case he has "addictive brain chemisty." I kinda think everyone does to an extent.... One of my Social Work professors defined addiction as "the right drug meets the right brain." It remains the best definition I've ever heard.

That said, there is no need to feel guilty about his interest in vaping and even filling the house with clouds.... really, it's hard to think of second hand vaping as a deathly killer if you ask me, if that were the case, every family member who accompanies someone to a vape shop is going to walk out of there addicted. I'm just not seeing much evidence for that.

Can you ask him to enroll in a study if he keeps it up LOL? Here is never-smoker pt #1

That said, he may tire of it quickly, he may enjoy doing the process with you, but ultimately it's his choice to vape and I don't think, even with clouds of vapor, if it was the nicotine getting him going, it's not the second-hand nicotine vape that is causing his desire, clearly since he can vape 0 nic and be satisfied. You didn't do anything other than vape for your own health.... That said, I totally understand the feelings of guilt. Husband (who has yet to quit) is going to extraordinary measures that I don't see him with a cig, though he's okay smoking with a pipe around me. He also appeared to have bought out a store's entire stock of mentos, HAHAH. I still smell the smoking but I'm carefully ignoring it. I guess it's kind of a weird situation. I'd be more than happy to sit out with him in the a.m. vaping, but I think he thinks I'm a fragile keg of gelignite that might smoke at any moment.... Okay, husband, okay, I get it.

It's weird how dynamics change in families once one person starts vaping instead of smoking, even though it's an excelllent thing

But my main point: don't feel like you caused it, he's a grown adult, it's not your doing.

Anna

 

[DaveP]

We are all addicted to the hand to mouth actions of our prior smoking habit. He's trying out a new hobby without the prior addiction. He'll either decide he likes it or give it up because it's too much trouble to maintain. If you keep doing the mechanical part of vaping for him and just hand him a filled tank, it might continue longer than it would if he had to do the technical part.

Teach him how to fill cartos and service his own hardware. See where it goes from there. He might decide it's too much trouble if he has to do all the work himself.

 

[Craybee]

We are all addicted to the hand to mouth actions of our prior smoking habit. He's trying out a new hobby without the prior addiction. He'll either decide he likes it or give it up because it's too much trouble to maintain. If you keep doing the mechanical part of vaping for him and just hand him a filled tank, it might continue longer than it would if he had to do the technical part.

Teach him how to fill cartos and service his own hardware. See where it goes from there. He might decide it's too much trouble if he has to do all the work himself.

yeah last night i asked him if he'd prefer one of my eGo twists because he drains that old cig-a-like after barely an hour of puffing but he didn't have any interest because the cig-a-like felt more natural to him regarding the hand to mouth action. so i'm waiting to see if he keeps this up a few more weeks. if so, i guess i'll just accept it and buy him a new cig-a-like kit. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

[stols001]

Well, if you buy him something that breaks frequently and has terrible reviews.... I kid. I kid. Wow, he must really like inhaling if he's draining it in an hour. Maybe buy him one of these? OMG, these are.... remember those cigarette candies you could get where it was choclate inside of a cigarette box? I remember them fondly, probably a bad sign when considering my future smoking.

But if he wasn't a smoker, maybe THIS will embarass him out of the habit. They get great reviews from SOMEWHERE, LOL. Magnum Snaps | eCig Starter-Kit | Magnum E-Cig | ePuffer Vape

Oh my. I'm such a bad wife. In general. But, just saying! Great reviews and look at the price, LOL.

Anna

 

[mountaingal]

If it wasn't for the clouds, I'd probably quit vaping. I like blowing smoke rings. Maybe, he felt left out with all the new clouds you are blowing. I wouldn't worry. But, maybe if he had to charge the batts and fill it all the time, he wouldn't like it.

 

[Beamslider]

Well, if you buy him something that breaks frequently and has terrible reviews.... I kid. I kid. Wow, he must really like inhaling if he's draining it in an hour. Maybe buy him one of these? OMG, these are.... remember those cigarette candies you could get where it was choclate inside of a cigarette box? I remember them fondly, probably a bad sign when considering my future smoking.

But if he wasn't a smoker, maybe THIS will embarass him out of the habit. They get great reviews from SOMEWHERE, LOL. Magnum Snaps | eCig Starter-Kit | Magnum E-Cig | ePuffer Vape

Oh my. I'm such a bad wife. In general. But, just saying! Great reviews and look at the price, LOL.

Anna

LOL $69 for that? are they crazy

 

[Craybee]

Well, if you buy him something that breaks frequently and has terrible reviews.... I kid. I kid. Wow, he must really like inhaling if he's draining it in an hour. Maybe buy him one of these? OMG, these are.... remember those cigarette candies you could get where it was choclate inside of a cigarette box? I remember them fondly, probably a bad sign when considering my future smoking.

But if he wasn't a smoker, maybe THIS will embarass him out of the habit. They get great reviews from SOMEWHERE, LOL. Magnum Snaps | eCig Starter-Kit | Magnum E-Cig | ePuffer Vape

Oh my. I'm such a bad wife. In general. But, just saying! Great reviews and look at the price, LOL.

Anna

yeah turns out he's a bit of a chain vapor like me. although Apollo, the company i got my first cigalike kit from doesn't make the kit anymore they still sell the cartomizers and battery part separately for just ten bucks. so i'll get him a couple of new batteries. that should suit his needs for awhile if he intends on continuing.

 

[stols001]

Sounds like a plan... I guess if he likes what he's vaping he can just... keep on. I still like the pack of cigarettes mod, but that's just me. Had I the remotest interest in vaping it, I migh buy it for fun. It's just that awful.

Though, it's nice to know that it's BT, so will potentially be around for the kiddos to try, since it looks like a cigarette pack and it's not a gateway to smoking at all.

Anna

 

[Layzee Vaper]

Perhaps it's just me, but if he is old enough to decide to start vaping, then he is old enough to source, pay for and service his new habit.
I suspect that he will soon tire of it

 

[stols001]

Yeah, teach him what to do, then hand him his wallet Although, with my own start up vaping costs, I really... I'd have a hard time not sharing. In fact, husband, the non-quitting quitter looked DEEPLY interested when my Tesla Nano Steampunk came, I offered it to him several times, LOL. I think that was the morning the, "And exactly how much have you spent now Anna?" talk came, even though I already told him. I explained the mod was less than two tins of American Spirit tobacco but would he listen? Nope. He can still have it if he changes his mind

Anna

 

[Bad Ninja]

i kinda feel guilty that my vaping next to him for the past four years might've gotten him second-handidly hooked on nicotine somehow. should i be worried? i feel kinda dirty, like i've corrupted him. :/

Not a chance.
It is impossible for someone to become physically addicted (hooked) to nicotine from second hand vape.

 

[DaveP]

My Dad told me when I was 16, "If you drive a care, you have to learn to check the oil, water, transmission fluid, tire pressure, and put gas in it. You also need to learn to change a tire. IF you get stuck somewhere, walk to a pay phone and call me on my pager."

Those were the good old days. I managed to learn all that and I don't remember ever calling his pager for help with the car. I did call a friend a couple of times when I needed help.

 

[DaveP]

Yeah, teach him what to do, then hand him his wallet Although, with my own start up vaping costs, I really... I'd have a hard time not sharing. In fact, husband, the non-quitting quitter looked DEEPLY interested when my Tesla Nano Steampunk came, I offered it to him several times, LOL. I think that was the morning the, "And exactly how much have you spent now Anna?" talk came, even though I already told him. I explained the mod was less than two tins of American Spirit tobacco but would he listen? Nope. He can still have it if he changes his mind

Anna

When I started vaping I could buy a carton of Merits for about $35. I bought 2 cartons a week for my wife and me. Juice was cheap. 30ml bottles were about $8 at the local vape shop, less online. Vaping a Joye cigalike that bottle would last a week. A few drops on the cotton filler here and there was all it took. She quit using a prescription from the doctor. I switched to vaping.

Vaping actually saved me money over smoking. After the first year I had saved lots of money compared to the $2500 to $3000 a year I spent on cigs. When I finally quit buying them I rewarded myself with a stainless steel Provari tube mod. It was my first variable voltage device.