I am starting to believe societies desire to protect are children are destroying them.
For example, our extremely high levels allergies, asthma, Crohn's disease, and ulcerative colitis can be directly traced to our cleanness For the past 50 years we have not let are children get dirty and thus we have destroyed our immune response systems. I have even read studies being done that show that we really need to be exposed to hookworms that early exposure to hookworms help build a healthy immune systems and now doctors are infecting people with them in order to treat these types autoimmune illnesses.
My mother in the late 40s was ordered to drink beer while she was pregnant, she also smoked. I was just reading THE KID by Dan Savage about a gay couples open adoption. It seemed the street punk who was there childs biological mother drank fairly moderately during pregnancy. The straight couples who were desperate for a child when offered this one rejected him because his mother drank and even this gay couple consulted the leading expert on fetal alcohol syndrome and was assured that there was no evidence that moderate drinking had any negative effect on the child and still they hesitated to take the child for after all the modern mantra is Why risk it?.
All of you who are advising Why risk it and telling a Mother to step outside to smoke or vape not really having any proof that the cause harm, also have no idea of the psychological harm that a child might suffer by a parent abruptly abandoning them for brief periods of time many times a day to run outside either. You do not know whether a parent who remands with a child while suffering under the stress of nicotine withdrawal and being thus a little more angry, stiff and withdrawing is causing psychological harm either.
Twenty somethings are not leaving home nowadays they as a whole are more dependent and less self assured then any generation before. They have been made that way by loving parents who have done everything they could to protest them.
We really need to stop doing that. But myself, being a parent of a 20 something who has severe allergies and not left home and who has always been kept clean and overprotective does not know how to to that.